Research has found that people who like being alone are typically more open-minded, and have more well-functioning social lives than people who hate to be on their own. But what seems like a no-brainer concept on the surface of it is still notoriously difficult to put into practice.
Perhaps at the root of this behaviour is the undeniable fact that letting go involves change — which can be hella scary. This resistance to change makes sense considering uncertainty is something the mind actively avoids because it robs us of energy , and potentially creating some serious stress in the process.
In between selfishness and selflessness probably sits the sweet spot. But so many of us lose this playfulness towards life as we get older and become a little worn down by our experiences. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when one contemplates the mysteries of eternity…Never lose a holy curiosity.
Anger is one of the most primitive emotions we experience. Whilst small amounts of anger might not be so bad — research has shown it can be a powerful motivator — being able to constructively process emotions is far better for our mental health. Whatever has happened has made them feel this way.
But those who are able to totally own their own emotions — the good, the bad and the ugly — tend to feel more in the driving seat of their own lives. The numerous benefits of optimism are well documented. Better health, less stress, better relationships and greater success are just a few.
Essentially, research has shown that optimistic people have a higher quality of life compared to those with low levels of optimism or pessimists. Martin Seligman, says the rewards for doing so are clear:.
These experiments also show that optimists do much better in school and college, at work and on the playing field. They regularly exceed the predictions of aptitude tests. Their health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most of us from the usual physical ills of middle age. Evidence suggests they may even live longer. Sometimes, being honest means the risk of losing out in some way. Lies tend to solely benefit the person weaving them.
Honesty lets people know exactly where they stand so they can make their own decisions with all the facts. Having personal goals is a total gamechanger. Or are you just part of the crowd — laughing, crying, criticizing, berating, eulogizing with the rest? Think about it. It is the one with the halo of a quiet confidence and calm; a person who knows where he is headed and is confident and helpful too. Someone you can rely upon and who will not take you for a ride.
Someone who embraces his ordinariness in an extraordinary manner. An extraordinary person lives his life fully.
The trick to leading an extraordinary life is to lead your simple, ordinary life and be open to experiencing the extraordinary you find within it. Striving too hard to be different is not the way to stand out; rather it is the way to becoming an object of ridicule. Just live your life fully and by your rules; do not make compromises you do not believe in. Stand up for what is right and work with focus and sincerity.
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